Ep. 146/ How to Let that Sh*t Go: How to Believe in Yourself and Hit Your Goals
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Sometimes it is important to ask the question, how do I let that shit go and step into my power for unstoppable success in life and business? This week I am joined by Danielle Taylor, a former nurse who changed careers to become an empowerment coach. Danielle found her true calling in helping women break through fear and self-doubt. Her approach is all about collaboration, community, and confidence, as she coaches women to own their expertise and allow their businesses to thrive. I found her anecdotes and strategies particularly insightful, especially her emphasis on the importance of asking oneself “why”. This episode is all about getting out of your own way and moving towards the messy and bold opportunities.
Our conversation made me reflect deeply on overcoming insecurities and imposter syndrome, challenges I've had to face and fight to build my own successful career. Danielle emphasized that allowing oneself to get stuck in a cycle of doubt only hinders growth, which resonates with my belief that embracing imperfections and showing up authentically is key to personal and professional success. Her success with her coaching program and hosting events like Brunch with Babes has demonstrated that investing in oneself and surrounding oneself with supportive communities can lead to incredible transformations. I encourage you all to step out of the shadows of fear and into the spotlight of your potential, and Danielle provides a wonderful blueprint for doing just that.
You will learn:
How did you get out of your own way - 5:27
The 5 questions you need to ask yourself - 9:56
How to let shit go - 14:25
How to trust yourself - 18:25
How to reframe the fear - 27:31
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You will learn:
How did you get out of your own way - 5:27
The 5 questions you need to ask yourself - 9:56
How to let shit go - 14:25
How to trust yourself - 18:25
How to reframe the fear - 27:31
Quotes from our guest:
“So most women, I will tell you don't know that they're stuck in fear and doubt and overwhelmed and that they don't even know that they're stuck. And so we have to peel back the layers. We have to peel back the layers of what's really going on. And it's the way we talk to ourselves, the way we talk to ourselves, the way we talk about ourselves and the way we take in compliments.” - 3:57
What about if we asked ourselves questions and reframed our negative questions to studying many different types of techniques to get present, to get out of your own way? And I found affirmations is it our brains are automatic. So when we say, why am I so stupid? We list the things of why are we so stupid? But when we say, why am I so smart? We're going to write all the reasons why I'm so smart. So we start asking ourselves questions. We write down five questions about ourself. Why do I want to work on myself? Why do I want to build the life of my dreams? Why do I want to find joy in my life? Why do I want to get unstuck? Why am I an amazing woman? And we ask ourselves these different questions and I work with you to ask yourselves these questions. And then all of a sudden you realize, wow, I'm freaking amazing. There's so many things I've wanted to do in my life, but I was afraid to do them. And it really was how I was perceiving my own self and my self image.” - 5:27
"My six week transformation is about the fact that we all have fears and doubts. We all have those not good enough moments, right? And especially as women because in society we're taught to silence ourselves. We're taught to not feel good enough." - 17:58
“You have to reframe it into growth learning. This is what it had to be. This is what had to happen. I've had a million nos. I will email people. I will reach out to you. I know I'm going to get a lot of nos, but guess what? I'm going to get that one yes. And that one yes was meant to happen. And people say, how do you do it? Because I write every day. I'm an amazing woman. I love, I literally go to bed and say, I love myself. I love myself. I'm enough, not, I'm good enough. I'm enough.” - 27:31
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Kim (00:02):
Are you feeling like you're stuck and you know where you want to go? Or maybe you don't know where you want to go, but you know you're not going in the right direction. Danielle Taylor is here and I'm so excited to have you here From her, she has a nurse turned coach for women and she helps you let that stuff go. Let it go. Crack through it. Crack through. She'll take you through how she launched her own successful coaching program and her amazing community events called Bucks County Bru with Babes. And you're going to hear so much about how she personally got out of her own way, how she let fear go, and the five questions you should be asking yourself to get where you need to go. Make sure to listen.
(00:39):
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(01:40):
Alright, everyone, I'm really excited to bring in Danielle Taylor. She is an empowerment coach and speaker nurse certified mindfulness meditation teacher, founder of Elevate Her Coaching and Bucks County Brunch with Babes. She's a mom of two boys and she helps women grow their brands through collaboration, community and confidence known for her no BS approach. She empowers women to ditch self-doubt, own their expertise, and build unstoppable businesses both online and in person. So I'm so excited to have Danielle here. Danielle took video bootcamp and we've known each other for a while. Danielle, I'm really excited for you to come on and tell me, talk to me about how you got to being a coach. You were a nurse, you are a nurse, so tell me about your path.
Danielle (02:18):
So I actually was first a research coordinator at Penn for PTSD and alcoholism, and then I decided, you know what? I want to be a nurse. So I went back to school and did an accelerated program and I realized that this wasn't fully my path and my purpose. So I ended up working towards being a mindfulness meditation teacher. And I really did that because my son has a DHD and I didn't know how to help him and I always tried to fix him, but really what we have to do in our lives is do the internal work for ourselves. And so I started on this path for me and I realized this is my purpose, this is my passion, this is how I'm going to help women get out of their own way and build the life of their dream. And then I started learning how to coach. I took your video bootcamp and then I took other coaching platforms, teachings, and I was like, this is how we're going to combine it. We're going to combine it with mindfulness, getting out of your own way and building the life for your dreams, both in person and on social media.
Kim (03:29):
So I definitely, I'm so aligned with the idea of a lot of us are in our own way. I think that I just gave a keynote about fear, and the truth is I train people to be on camera and some people are already comfortable on camera and I'm just working on tactical skills with them. But most people, there's voices in our head that are really loud and they're holding us back. And so I love that that's really central to what you help. So talk to me about what do you help women focus on? Is it goal setting and then achieving the goals? Take me a little bit more through the work you do with them.
Danielle (03:57):
So most women, I will tell you don't know that they're stuck in fear and doubt and overwhelmed and that they don't even know that they're stuck. And so we have to peel back the layers. We have to peel back the layers of what's really going on. And it's the way we talk to ourselves, the way we talk to ourselves, the way we talk about ourselves and the way we take in compliments. How many times have you said, oh, oh yeah, oh, and you don't say, just thank you and own it and own your power. And I think that I did that all the time. I know I did that. And so we talk about that, but we also work to be present, to be present and in our bodies and to understand what's going on in our bodies when we feel these things. And that's really hard. Most women we're on a hamster wheel of running around, running around, running around. You're running around with your kids, you're running around with your family. Maybe you're working a full-time job and building a business and you don't know how to just stop, get mindful, be present and figure out what's going on behind the scenes.
Kim (05:09):
So once we're in our own body, once we're sort of like, okay, I'm really here, right? My mind's not in 10 places. I'm not trying to do the to-do list while trying to be a parent while trying to be a worker. I'm really present then how do you get about identifying your goals and figuring out where we want to go? What's the next steps? So
Danielle (05:27):
I realized, and I've been studying for a very long time, that we manifest things, but it's really how we are viewing ourselves and the world. And we could say affirmations like I am wealthy, I am smart, I am killing this. But we rarely don't believe it because so many of us talk back negatively to ourselves. What about if we asked ourselves questions and reframed our negative questions to studying many different types of techniques to get present, to get out of your own way? And I found affirmations is it our brains are automatic. So when we say, why am I so stupid? We list the things of why are we so stupid? But when we say, why am I so smart? We're going to write all the reasons why I'm so smart. So we start asking ourselves questions. We write down five questions about ourself. Why do I want to work on myself? Why do I want to build the life of my dreams? Why do I want to find joy in my life? Why do I want to get unstuck? Why am I an amazing woman? And we ask ourselves these different questions and I work with you to ask yourselves these questions. And then all of a sudden you realize, wow, I'm freaking amazing. There's so many things I've wanted to do in my life, but I was afraid to do them. And it really was how I was perceiving my own self and my self image.
Kim (07:06):
And how did you finally get out of your own way? How did you say, okay, I'm not going to listen to these voices anymore, instead I am going to do it. Or did you do those five questions? How did you get out of your own way?
Danielle (07:16):
Okay, let's be really honest and real. It's a lot of work.
(07:21):
This is not like a one step process. This is time. And it took me a lot of years and I've even told you, and I'm very upfront. I've been working towards launching a program for years and I was stuck in fear and doubt. And guess what? I had to let that shit go and do all the work. I had to do mindfulness meditation every single day and everybody could be mindful. It's learning to be present and people are so we're moving so quickly to slow down and to be still within our bodies. I do EFT tapping, I do affirmations, I do formations, I do journaling. I do what speaks to me, but I do it every day and literally anybody could do it. And I'll tell you why. I'm a full-time mom. I'm building a business of my dreams. I work and I still make time for myself.
(08:19):
So if anybody could do it, you can do it. Do you sleep? That doesn't sound like there's time for sleep. I go to bed, so I'm not going to lie. I go to bed and I'm in bed at nine o'clock at night and I sleep until five or six in the morning. Let me be honest, this is not 30 minutes. This is five minutes a day. And what I also teach moms, if there's moms in the program is you train your children, right? Children can entertain themselves. So you put on that timer, you train them, they're going to come to you over and over and say, mom, I need this, mom, I need that. And you show them a timer. But once you are done with doing the internal work, taking care of yourself because you have to do that to take care of others, right? Then you're present with them because you're learning to be present with yourself.
Kim (09:06):
So the five questions you had said earlier, I found that interesting. They're all why questions. So none of them are how questions tell
Danielle (09:11):
Me about that. We have to ask ourselves why? Because the how will come. And this is, I literally just had a conversation with somebody I was coaching. She's doing a huge nonprofit gala next week and she's so focused on how she forgot her, why? And I said, the how will come, you have the sponsors, you have the place, you have this, you have that, but you're forgetting your why and you're getting so stuck in the how that you forgot the whole reason you're doing this is for your son that actually died. And she wasn't focusing on that. And she wasn't selling tickets because she wasn't getting on camera and telling everybody her why. And that's what we worked on literally.
Kim (09:56):
It's so true. I think it really speaks to motivation. And if you're not motivated to do something and you don't have your why and there's not really something deep underneath it, it's very hard to take steps forward. And by the way, I love your honesty. When people ask me like, oh, you have a nice relationship with your husband. I say, yeah, every anniversary I should owe my therapist a thank you card. But you know what
Danielle (10:16):
The truth is is that everybody should invest in themselves. Everybody deserves to invest in themselves. We all come from trauma. We all have things that we could work on. Nobody should be ashamed and you shouldn't have to do it alone. So a therapist, an amazing coach, workshops, growth, learning. Look, I thought that I knew social media and then I was like, I took your bootcamp. And I was like, I really needed a guide, somebody to show me the ins and outs that I didn't know. And you know what? I was open to that and it's okay.
Kim (10:52):
I love that. Talk to me about, one of the things I love that we've talked about a little bit offline is the idea that you help people get unstuck. I find I love teaching video bootcamp, but I do think you have to have done some inner work beforehand if you really, really, you think you should do video because you should do it for your business. But really a part of you feels so frozen with either insecurity or self-consciousness. It's hard to pull somebody in front of the camera if they haven't done the inner work. It is very, very hard. I have done it, but it's very, very hard. So I like the idea of here's how you get unstuck. First, talk to me about video bootcamp. What were your biggest learnings from video bootcamp?
Danielle (11:32):
Video bootcamp? First of all, I am so bad on the backend of organizing myself, and that was really something that you taught us. We have to organize ourselves to have the weekly story, to have what we're doing for the week, but also to just do it to get on camera. And I love ice Watch you every day and you are talking about your family, you're talking about your, and it's not perfect. I remember there was one where you're lugging your laundry down the hallway, and I totally remember that. And that really hit me because I was like, I was so stuck watching you and you were saying it. And I was like, it doesn't matter what you're doing, you just have to do it and tell your story and share what you're doing because people want to know who you are, who you really are. Not the social media character, but the real person and so many people. And that's why from social Media bootcamp, I kept honing in and I posted last night, and I thought about you because I knew this. I was in bed and I was saying, do you go to bed early and late? And I was so worried about what I look like. And then I was like, oh, she was lugging at her laundry down and she didn't care. So I'm just going to post this story today.
Kim (12:51):
Yeah, I'm like, I'm always, I'm in the elevator, I'm grabbing a banana. I don't care anymore. But I cared a lot when I first started. I was definitely self conscious of, I felt like I always call it, I felt like I had to be pantsuit Kim.
(13:02):
It came from Netflix and US Weekly and Fox. And I always was in my head, what are my peers who are now executives going to be thinking of me? And I'm like, you know what? Lucky for those people. But they have a salary every single week and they could go to work sleepwalking. But I run my own business and if I don't show up and let people know who I am and what I'm about, I'm not going to have clients. And so I think I got that motivation from there. And I love, one of the things I love for you is during video bootcamp, I remember you telling me you were starting to show up as more authentically, Danielle, and then you got all these podcast invitations. Tell me more. It was
Danielle (13:34):
Insane. So once I was doing the video bootcamp, and in the background I was reading Brene Brown. So Brene Brown is leadership. I mean, she's at the forefront, sociology leadership. So I'm doing your bootcamp. I'm reading Brene Brown and I'm stuck. And I was like, oh my God, I am doing all the work and I'm still afraid. And then I was like, you know what? Excuse my language, but F this is who I am. I was always afraid to be who I am, and I'm just going to do it. I'm just going to do it. But also on top of that, I was meditating every day, and that really made a difference for me. And I was really sitting still and being present, which was even more fearful than doing anything else. And I was saying these positive things to myself. Why am I so powerful?
(14:25):
Why am I letting go? Why am I going to be an Instagram sensation? Why am I going to be a speaker? Why am I going to be successful like Kim? And through all this work, I let that shit go. And then I got 16,000 followers. It was insane. But it's a combination of things. So what I always say is let that shit go, which I'm dropping. It's a program I'm dropping. That took a while, really long time. And it's doing the work every single day and doing it on camera, interactive and posting right there. And you literally did that, right? You did that. We had to do a story right there. And all of us are sitting there, you are like, yeah, you're doing it right now. You're doing it right now. And we are like, Ugh. And then you post it, but you just have to do it, right? Yeah. Whether it's good, bad, messy, it doesn't matter.
Kim (15:17):
And I love it. You've had such insane growth. How many followers do you have now? I have 16,200 followers. What do you think the key was? I feel like you're really authentic. You're really yourself. What do you think the key was for you for the social media growth in terms of follower, because you had good content, but what do you think was the key to actually growing the following?
Danielle (15:33):
I think first of all, I really, I write, so this is what I'm going to be teaching in my six week camp. In my six week program. I first do the work, I meditate every single day, but then once I'm calm in my body and present all these ideas come to me, all these stories come to me, all these aha moments come to me. And I literally have, and I have my phone here, I have my voice notes, voice note after voice note after voice note. And I take that and I sit with it and I sit with it and I rework it and I do things, but I have so many of them. But also I just post it the work that I do, the rewiring of my brain to positively say things. So I have it there. It's just flows now. And I think that's what people see on my social media.
Kim (16:32):
And you're engaging with people and connecting with people and really
Danielle (16:35):
Constantly, constantly,
Kim (16:36):
I could see you. I feel like you're such a real person and you really believe in helping people. And so you're like, this is a real person. I'm connecting with this real person. And that's so true. I have a question for you. So I'd love to learn more about the camp that you're running. And then my other question for you is, you had said you had fear in you and you had to fight through the fear to get unstuck, but what was the fear you identified, you strike me as a very confident person, very comfortable with who you are. And so talk to me about the fear that you personally had to identify and fight. So I will tell
Danielle (17:09):
You not being good enough, but also the fear that I wouldn't help people and that they wouldn't get what they needed. So I do these events
Kim (17:24):
And these are the Bucks County,
Danielle (17:25):
Bucks County, Bruford Babes,
Kim (17:26):
Bucks County, Bruford Babes in Pennsylvania.
Danielle (17:29):
So once a month I do event for women owned businesses. My biggest fear about it is that these women aren't going to get out the connection, collaboration, and all these things. And I had to let it go and just do it. And that was my biggest fear, that I'm not good enough. Who am I to say what you should be doing? And I own it, but we all have these fears inside us. It doesn't matter if we're millionaires, it doesn't matter if you are a seven or eight figure founder. You have fears, you still have fears of all these things. But I reframe it. So I'll say, why am I attracting such amazing women into my life? Why do I give these women such amazing transformations? And then I list all the things because I'm smart, because I've studied, because I care, because I'm authentic and honest.
(18:25):
And that's what we teach. That's literally what I'm teaching in my six week transformation. My six week transformation is about the fact that we all have fears and doubts. We all have those not good enough moments. And especially as women, because in society we're taught to silence ourselves. We're taught to not feel good enough. We're taught to think that we're not skinny enough or pretty enough or tall enough or smart enough. And I said, I'm this Jewish girl from Brooklyn. I'm five feet tall with brown hair, and all these women on social media are six feet tall and blonde and bikinis. And I really was like, oh my God, I don't look like that person. And you know who freaking cares? Because I know I have a mission, I have a purpose, and I have a passion, and I'm going to show that every single time I get on camera. So what you have to do is let that shit go by sitting with yourself and letting those thoughts go through you. And this is what I teach. So each week is going to be a technique, and I found sometimes I really hate journaling. Sorry, but I hate it. And maybe I need something else that day.
(19:40):
And so I feel like so many times in programs we teach that one thing, you have to do it. This is no, you have to teach various techniques. So the first week is mindfulness meditation for the high energy woman. I'm high energy, and most women struggle to sit still because we have so many things going on in our lives. But to sit still and let those thoughts go through you and let it flow, and we'll work through as they're flowing through reframing them. We also do EFT tapping, which is tapping on different points in your body and reframing your thoughts. We do, oh my God, there's so many. We do affirmations. We do affirmations. We're going to do interactive where we actually have to talk to each other and talk about our fears and our doubts and our struggles. And then the second 30 minutes, we learn techniques about social media. So it's not where we're going to learn about filming, but we're going to learn the confidence behind doing it.
Kim (20:46):
I love this. And it's funny, I just did a keynote about fear, and I love that you're, one of the things that I say to people when you have a thing on your to-do list that's been sitting there for years, it's fear. So I think there's fear of failure, which is exactly what you said, fear that we're not good enough, fear of judgment. That's why people don't post on social media. Sometimes there's fear of imposter syndrome that people are going to think you're a fraud. And I love that we have to be honest with what we're afraid of. I remember my first big speech a few years ago. I went on the plane back from the speech, and I'm sitting in the plane and I just started crying. And I, we never congratulate ourselves,
Danielle (21:27):
Never.
Kim (21:28):
We never congratulate ourselves. And I literally was crying because I had felt like it was so hard for me to launch my own business. It was hard for me to put myself on camera, which is insane because I had worked in TV for 15 years. I had trained thousands of people to be on camera. I had been an on-camera reporter for a time. It made no sense. And so I felt like, oh my God, I've been doing this stuff. I had a therapist then. My brother is amazing, so supportive. My mom is amazing, so supportive. They've been my OG cheer squad. My husband is incredibly supportive. We've been married for, I don't know, for 13 years, but my mom and my brother were the OG cheer squad for me. And I just felt this overwhelming wave of like, Kim, I'm so proud of you, and I was proud of myself, but we often never are proud of the things we've done.
(22:18):
We never stop and say, Danielle, you're doing great. And sometimes I'll message people. I'm like, I just want to say to you that you're doing great. And people are like, oh, well. I'm like, no, not where you're going. Of course you're going to go farther, but where you are right now, look at yourself three months ago. You're such a badass. Oh my God. And I said that to Danielle a few months ago. I'm like, Danielle, oh my God, you've so many followers. You've really come up with your business plan. It's like it's happening. You're going to coach. And then I was like, now coach, and I'm so excited for you because I do think that the fear is there, but B, it's that double-edged sword for us, especially as women is ambition. And I have a thought that I'm trying to figure out how I'm going to frame it.
(22:59):
It's popping around my mind, but it's this double-edged sword of ambition and acceptance. I think that's probably what the word is. I'm literally writing this down. I think it's like to be ambitious and to find success, you have to be focused on the next thing. And you have to be not ruthless, but not merciless, but nonstop. And you have to have a nonstop goal oriented aspect to be successful, but you also need to have some grace. And that's where acceptance comes in. You need to say, of course I'm going further than this, but pause. Let me accept that I did these great things. Good for me, really hard. So many of us are successful because we're perfectionists. So peeling that back is really hard. You know what
Danielle (23:39):
I really, really think is really important that we have to say that maybe it's going to take some time or longer than we thought it would be. And maybe it's going to take stepping stones. Maybe you're going to have to work full time and build this on the side. And also to say that it's going to happen, but it might not happen in the way that you thought it would.
Kim (24:01):
Totally. Totally.
Danielle (24:02):
That's really hard to accept. And that's what this is about. Really learning that your first idea of what you thought you'd be doing may evolve into something totally different than what you believed. Or maybe it's going to take two years instead of six months. And you have that ambition. You let go of that perfectionist. You do it and you work it hard, but you also have that grit and resilience to know that it may not be what you think it's going to be.
Kim (24:30):
Right?
Danielle (24:31):
And how do you do that? How do you have are okay with that? By doing the work, by doing the work that I'm showing you, by writing down your fears and your doubts and saying, you know what? I have to say step back. Maybe you lose it and you fall apart on the ground and you hysterical cry in the, we've all done it. What am I doing? What am I doing? What am I doing? And then you say, you know what? I'm doing a freaking amazing job. And it might not be what I thought it was, but I'm really proud of myself. And that's what you did on the plane, right? You replayed that. Totally. Yeah,
Kim (25:05):
Totally. And I love it. And talk to me about, I know you've already been coaching some people. Tell me about some of the recent client wins you've had.
Danielle (25:12):
Oh my God. So it has been with this brunch with babes and behind the scenes with that, these women are feeling so confident to reach out and make these collaborations. And not only that, but having women just do it. So posting to their stories where they would never do that before reframing and saying, I'm just going to do it. Now, whether it's messy, whether it looks not great, but I did it and I'm proud of myself that I just did it. And also it's really hard. So we talk about social media, but getting in person and talking and sharing your story is really scary. Introducing yourself and saying what you do and owning it and being the expert is really freaking scary.
Kim (26:02):
Yeah. I do a lot of training for people with elevator pitches and it's so true. People are like, I am of this. I'm like, you are that. So just say you are that people will believe, if I say, it's like if I tell you I am a brand ambassador for the tooth fairy, and you're like, what? But I say it with certainty and I have a tooth necklace and I have wings. You're like, maybe she's a brand ambassador for the tooth fairy. I don't know. It's like you have to own it. And then people will be like, oh, yeah. I mean, obviously you need the credibility and all that stuff, whatever. But you're right. And it takes a lot to say, I am this thing. I'm owning it. I'm really excited to be this thing.
Danielle (26:39):
Yes. And sometimes you have to say it. You have to fake it till you make it, but you it. But really, you become unstoppable and you have huge success when you feel it in your heart. And that's what we work towards. You may have to write it every single day. I'm a successful business coach. I am a social media sensation. I am a realtor making seven figures every single year. But you have to write it. I have post-its. Why am I attracting 10 clients into this program? I'm not a gatekeeper. I tell the truth. I do the work every single day. And you know what? Sometimes I fall off the wagon. We all do. But you get back on that horse and you do it again,
Kim (27:24):
Right? It's like everybody thinks it's going to be overnight. Nothing is overnight. You know what I mean? There's no overnight sensation for any of this stuff.
Danielle (27:31):
And the work of meditation, the work of journaling, the work of affirmations, the work of saying these why questions to yourself, that's grit and resilience. That's when things get hard. Because we know building a business on your own, being a female entrepreneur, you're going to have a lot of nos. You're going to have a million fails. You have to reframe it into growth learning. This is what it had to be. This is what had to happen. I've had a million nos. I will email people. I will reach out to you. I know I'm going to get a lot of nos, but guess what? I'm going to get that one yes. And that one yes was meant to happen. And people say, how do you do it? Because I write every day. I'm an amazing woman. I love, I literally go to bed and say, I love myself. I love myself. I'm enough not. I'm good enough. I'm enough.
Kim (28:29):
I love that. Okay, we're going to do rapid fire before we wrap up. Okay. Tell me a funny work story. Tell me the one that involves common that you told me about.
Danielle (28:37):
Oh my God. So I've done a million jobs. I worked at this restaurant, like the super high-end restaurant, right? So I was a hostess at that point, but I really was an office manager. So I'm standing there, it's a Saturday night, there's a million people in the restaurant. We're overbooked. This guy walks up to me by himself and he's like, can I have a table for one? Okay. I am like, I'm sorry, there's no, and everybody's looking at me. Literally everybody around me went silent, silent. And I'm like, I'm sorry, sir, you're going to have to wait. We don't have a table one. We might not have one tonight. And literally everybody's looking. He stepped away, didn't say anything, didn't fight. Stepped away. He was by himself. And the manager walks over and they're like, what are you doing? And I was like, there's no room. They were like, that's common. And I was like, that's common. And if anybody doesn't know common, he's in magazine, singer juicer songwriter. And he's standing in the corner and everybody's just looking at him. And I walk over and I'm like, I'm so sorry. And he's like, no, no, no. He didn't even say who he was. He never said who he was. And I was like, come this right this way. And we sat and he sat and had dinner by himself.
Kim (29:49):
Oh my God, that is so funny.
Danielle (29:52):
I was mortified.
Kim (29:53):
Okay, my last question. I've been asking people, what is your exit in five words or one sentence?
Danielle (30:00):
My exit. To know that I can be enough to build my business and step away from my career as a nurse.
Kim (30:14):
I love that. And where can people learn more about the program? So if people are interested in working with you, where can they find out more information?
Danielle (30:20):
So I am at the hot mess. Everybody puts in hot mess, and then it doesn't come in the hot mess, which is a play on words because nobody's a hot mess. Everybody is just doing the best they can and is enough. Www elevate her coaching net. My program's on there. It is launching Sunday, dropping. It's opening Sunday, March 16. Get on the list. We are doing, I am doing that. We are. It's me. We're doing a small, small seating. I want everybody to have the experience. And it's a truly interactive transformational program. This is my baby. This is what I've been working on. And if everybody asks me, how did you do it? This is the framework
Kim (31:08):
To do it. Exciting. And so cart opens on March 16th, or when does it launch Wednesday actual program start? So the program
Danielle (31:14):
Starts the beginning of April, the first week in April. And it opens, the cart opens Sunday, March 16th, which is my brunch with Babes Empowerment and Leadership Brunch.
Kim (31:25):
Great. And the program is virtual, so that's on. That's virtual. It's virtual.
Danielle (31:28):
It's virtual. It will be recorded. And I have been working on mindfulness meditation downloads. I've been working on cord cutting downloads. I've been working on workbooks that you can download and use forever. So fun. Danielle, I'm so excited. This was so great to catch up. Thank you. Thank you so much. And I would say that my program is an amazing precursor to do your social media bootcamp. Do Kim's social media bootcamp. It is like a game changer for social media. Thank you so much. Thanks, Danielle. Of course. Thank you.
Kim (32:04):
Thank you for joining us. Don't forget to exit the grind and enter success on your own terms. This is the exit interview with Kim Rittberg. Don't forget to grab my free download, how to Grow Your Business with Amazing video at kimrittberg.com and linked out in the show notes. I love to hear your feedback. Make sure to submit to me what you learned from the show and how you are crushing it on your own terms. Connect with me on Instagram or LinkedIn at Kim Rittberg, R-I-T-T-B-E-R-G. And this show is edited by Jillian Grover and produced by Henry Street Media. I'm your host and executive producer Kim Rittberg.